Lace and Combat Boots

America I'm putting my queer shoulder to the wheel






Can we talk for a minute about Lauren Morelli (Orange is the New Black writer) coming out as gay and leaving her husband for Samira Wiley (Poussey)? Can we talk about bisexual erasure both in this situation and in Orange is the New Black? This show has tackled so many feminist/gender/race issues yet has completely ignored such an important identity, and I’m guessing this is due to Morelli’s failure to acknowledge bisexuality as a legitimate sexual orientation. 

wow wtf, r u seriously trying to suggest that lauren morelli and other women like her who realize later in life that they’re gay are actually bisexual bc they married/slept with/dated men?? that morelli couldn’t possibly know herself better than you, internet stranger, and have discovered an exclusive interest in and attraction to women???

also, like, she’s not the only writer for oitnb…

breaking news: a woman iding herself as gay is now bi erasure

wow at first i thought i must have been reading this wrong but no you really are saying that a lesbian’s personal sexual identity is bi erasure. no, you don’t get to tell another actual human being that you know better than she does what her own sexual orientation is! you don’t even know her! and having been married to or otherwise involved with a man will never be conclusive proof of a woman’s attraction as long as compulsory heterosexuality exists. and it affects us bi women too, so you should know about it.

don’t do this.

it’s like every time i think the monosexual privilege rhetoric can’t get any worse…. it does

now we are saying that actual real life lesbian women are perpetuating bisexual erasure by… not recognizing that theyre NOT ACTUALLY LESBIANS and are REALLY bisexual

for some reason this weird logic screws with your head and everything you know about marriage and consent and compulsory heterosexuality and how women end up in marriages they don’t want to be in just flies out the fucking window


I mean I guess this is the logical end point of an ideology that says Sappho was REALLy bisexual because she may have had a relationship with a man, and then (I would argue maliciously) co-opts her identity without any regard for historical context or precedent 

like yeah I am totally on board with the fact that OITNB has done a terrible job representing bisexuality but this is a REAL PERSON and it’s completely inexcusable to politicize this woman’s sexual identity and accuse her of.. erasing herself? 


Sometimes I imagine little baby Slytherins being led down to their dorms on their first night at Hogwarts after the sorting ceremony. Eleven year olds clinging to each other as they traverse the damp, cold stone steps into the dungeons and their minds are racing with things like mum wanted me to be in Ravenclaw, she’s going to disown me, and I’m afraid of snakes and Billy Cavendish told me Slytherin first years get fed to the giant squid if they misbehave, and what happens when my head of house finds out I’m muggleborn?and I don’t want to turn into a dark wizard! They’re all terrified and thinking that there must have been some mistake made with the sorting, but then the student who’s been guiding them starts talking about what it means to be a Slytherin. About how darkness isn’t inherently evil, and how being able to survive against all odds is strength, not cowardice, and how those with the most power have the greatest ability to do the most good. They assure the first years that from now on, they have a family that will do everything to defend and support them them and that they are now beloved children will full rights to the inheritance of Slytherin, and then gradually, the lights go up in the common room and this soothing green glow is cast on everything and it’s so, so beautiful. The little baby Slytherins start  exploring all the treasures and artifacts and fine things Slytherin house has hoarded over the years, and there’s no torture devices or human bones or poison chalices at all. There’s books and leather divans and silver tea sets and a handful of upperclassmen who don’t look like they want to feed them to anything. They can see shadowy outlines of merpeople in the lake outside the windows and suddenly they feel inexplicably at home, inexplicably safe, and they realize that no mistake has been made after all. 

(via condesces)



banksy is the zen pencils guy

reading these six words gives me a sensation completely unrelated to the usual feeling of reading a joke; it’s just a kind of placid acceptance. my brain just accepts this and i can’t stop believing with absolute certainty that it’s true

(via pissfreak)

I read several dozen stories a year from miserable, lonely guys who insist that women won’t come near them despite the fact that they are just the nicest guys in the world.

..I’m asking what do you offer? Are you smart? Funny? Interesting? Talented? Ambitious? Creative? OK, now what do you do to demonstrate those attributes to the world? Don’t say that you’re a nice guy — that’s the bare minimum.

“Well, I’m not sexist or racist or greedy or shallow or abusive! Not like those other douchebags!”

I’m sorry, I know that this is hard to hear, but if all you can do is list a bunch of faults you don’t have, then back the fuck away..

..Don’t complain about how girls fall for jerks; they fall for those jerks because those jerks have other things they can offer. “But I’m a great listener!” Are you? Because you’re willing to sit quietly in exchange for the chance to be in the proximity of a pretty girl (and spend every second imagining how soft her skin must be)? Well guess what, there’s another guy in her life who also knows how to do that, and he can play the guitar. Saying that you’re a nice guy is like a restaurant whose only selling point is that the food doesn’t make you sick. You’re like a new movie whose title is This Movie Is in English, and its tagline is “The actors are clearly visible”.

David Wong, 6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person

This never gets old. 

(via denasynesthesia)

(Source: violetmaps, via wretchedoftheearth)